5 Sex Dos and Don’ts
Need to spice up your sex life? Read ahead for five things you’re doing right in bed…and five ways you could be doing it wrong!
Do: Have a sense of humor.
Sex can be absolutely mind-blowing, and sometimes it can be downright hilarious. When you’re putting two (or more!) bodies together, sometimes things happen, like sounds and smells. The best way to handle an odd situation is to have a quick laugh, and get straight back to the action! Nothing kills the mood like an awkward moment. Take time to laugh with your partner, and she will feel more comfortable and relaxed with you.
Don’t: Laugh at her when she takes her clothes off.
She’s in bed with you, which means she’s down for a good time. Make her feel comfortable by complimenting her body and making her feel like the sexy, beautiful woman she is. If she’s feeling bad about herself, she won’t have a good time, and what’s the point of sex if everyone isn’t having fun? The last thing she needs during an intimate moment is to be thinking about her insecurities, so it’s your job to make her feel like a goddess.
Do: Let her know when she’s driving you wild.
Women want to know that they’re doing a good job at pleasing you. Wherever you are in your romp in the hay, be sure to give her positive feedback about what’s blowing your mind. Communication is key! Use your words (and sounds) to tell her exactly how good you feel about what she’s doing to you. She will really appreciate knowing that she’s exceeding your expectations, and the only way that happens is if you tell her.
Don’t: Criticize her performance while in the middle of sex.
Sex is not always perfect. Sometimes certain positions don’t work as well as you’re hoping, or you’re just not in the mood. The best way to handle this is to have a gentle conversation outside of the bedroom, in a non-intimate setting, when she’s open to suggestions about ways to improve your sex life. The worst way to handle any disappointments you have about sex is to make fun of her while she’s in the heat of the moment.
Do: Ease yourself into the kinky fun.
Want to try something new? Your special girl is likely down to try, just make sure to take it slow. Going 0 to 100 with experimenting is the best way to scare her off and make her scared to try new tricks in the future. Have a conversation before introducing any new toys or dynamics, and she will be much more comfortable with trying out your wildest fantasies.
Don’t: Pressure her into anything she doesn’t want to do.
Consent is sexy. The worst sex comes from situations where everyone isn’t on the same page, so be sure to take the time to ask her if she’s down for what you want to do with her. Chances are she’s game, but the only way you’ll know is if you ask first. Making her feel like she has to do something she’s uncomfortable with just because it’s something you want is not a good way to treat your partner, and can lead to issues down the line. Enthusiastic consent is the only way, and if she says no, be sure to respect that and move on.
Do: Take your time with foreplay.
While you might be ready to go as soon as she strips down, she probably isn’t quite up for the occasion right away. Take the time to warm her up and it will be worth your while. Deep kisses, caressing her body, and even sexier activities are a great way to get her in the mood. You want her to be practically begging for it by the time you’re done!
Don’t: Rush right to the final event.
Your partner is not just a warm body, but a human being. Treat her like the person she is by respecting her wants and needs in bed, instead of going right for your own pleasure. The best sex comes when your partner feels desired, sexy, and well taken care of. Most women don’t reach orgasm by penetration alone, so investing time in foreplay will be the best way to make sure she’s having an amazing time with you. She will be screaming your name in no time!
Do: Make her feel like the sexiest woman in the world.
Talking about exes when you’re with her is a definite no. She doesn’t want to be thinking about all of the other women you’ve been with when you’re between the sheets. Talk about a turn off! When you’re with her, give her your full attention. Put on some sexy music, light a candle, and focus on her alone. Tell her how beautiful she is to you and blow her mind with your intellect, starting before the clothes come off.
Don’t: Treat her like a sex object.
Everyone is trying to have a good time, and no one wants to feel like they’re less than a person to you in intimate moments. Treat her with respect and kindness when you’re in the bedroom. Calling her names, making fun of her, and insulting her are great ways to get her to walk out and never come back. Instead, tell her how much you’re enjoying yourself with her and communicate your needs to her in a clear way.